Chew The Meat, Spit Out The Bones
Today there are a lot of resources you can turn to for parenting advice, and you’ve likely found that some don’t necessarily give you the information you can use. That’s because everybody is different, and what works for one family might not work for another. Still, that doesn’t mean there aren’t common areas of support among all families.
For example, during infancy, when a child cries, there are some schools of thought which suggest leaving the child alone to work it out, provided other needs (food, drink, hygiene) are taken care of. Others say to immediately tend to the needs of a crying child, due to the young one’s lack of additional communicative options.
The truth is somewhere in between. It’s best to give a child attention whenever that attention is desired for its early development years, but as the child grows older, this instinct can become overbearing and restrict the child from learning critical things necessary for eventual maturity. Even then, attention is sometimes better.
So both are true, but the defining factor has much to do with the child’s age. Generally, when they’re young, you want to encourage movement and exploration. These are formative years essential in development, and they require close encouragement, supervision, patience, and wisdom.
Condensing Information Into Something You Can Use
The best advice is to form a gestalt of the information you’ve been given through books, other parents, friends, and members of your family. Some of it will work, some of it is too specific to a single scenario. Remember that you’re going to make mistakes, but you’re also going to make breakthroughs, and generally, they’ll even out.
It’s good to be conscientious, but don’t let yourself get too emotionally constrained. Remember your own childhood. Sometimes when you cried, it was good that you had not gotten your way—like when you tried to jump into the big cat enclosure at the zoo, were caught by your suspenders, and subsequently pitched a fit.
Something else worth doing is getting your child involved in brain-healthy activities as they become able to maintain their attention for an extended period of time. This can help you determine their aptitudes, and additionally, diminish the stress of constant supervision.
MommyAndMeNews.com, an authority on healthy moms, happy babies, and new insights into parenting, can help you choose joyful, engaging activities to engage your child’s brain; the site suggests: “4 Simple art projects that awaken creativity [are] hand painting, seasonal collages, playdoh jungle animals, [and] framing favorite pictures!”
These can be especially useful if you’re homeschooling a child or are otherwise taking a more hands-on approach to their upbringing. Look at your child’s preferences and see if you can find what they genuinely like. You’ll have a win-win on your hands then, as they’ll be learning and you’ll be able to let them learn in peace.
Playdates And Souvenirs
Additionally, you’re going to have situations where social bonds predicate a “playdate” get-together. Birthdays are well-known for this and can be a great time for your child to socialize with other children in the same age group, and stimulate mental growth.
But a birthday can be expensive, so suggestions like those of MomyAndMeNews can be a great help in entertaining kids without breaking the bank. Getting a birthday group involved in a creative, head-healthy activity can keep multiple children engaged, and done right is plenty of fun for the whole party.
The early years are precious ones, and a final advantage to activities like this is that there are completed projects your child has made at the end of them, and you can cherish them for years to come.