Kids can have all kinds of personalities. There are some kids who are determined to learn a new skill while other kids have a tendency to give up. With my kids, I have 2 kids who are determined. Nothing stops them. They get an idea in their head and they won’t stop and until they have gotten it. My other 2 kids tend to get frustrated and give up easily. With both of them, I have noticed, if it is a skill that takes them time to learn it, and it doesn’t come easily, they are done and do not want to even try. Of course, as a parent, I want my kids to succeed and that means I do not want them giving up.
So here are some suggestions on how you can help your kids learn to not give up.
Some kids get very overwhelmed when they think about learning a new skill. It seems too daunting. They can not wrap their head around getting from not knowing how to do it at all and learning it. Help kids understand the steps. Break it down by parts. Most skills have a few things that have to be learned in order to get to the end. Help kids know what needs to be done. Then make it fun. Use a visual. Using a chart or a game board of sorts, let the kids mark off each step towards learning a skill. It will help keep them motivated by seeing how far they have come.
One of the biggest differences between kids who persevere and kids who give up easily is that kids who persevere see the effort as getting them where they need to be. Try changing the way your praise your kids for their work. Instead of saying “You are getting good at dribbling” try saying “Wow all that dribbling practice is paying off”. Kids start to see that working towards the goal is just as good as learning the skill. It helps kids get less frustrated when they can not get the skill easily.