I just completed a presentation for class on Fear of Public speaking. I came across some amazing information that doesn’t just pertain to public speaking but to life as well. Fear is an amazing thing, it truly is, it can either be your driving force or it can stop you dead in your tracks – a point of no return. Today, I want to talk about fighting through the fear. This assignment opened my eyes to realizing how I utilize fear. I used to just stop and give up when I was younger. I was afraid of wild animals, so I wouldn’t go to the zoo or a safari. A friend had a pet snake. so I never went over their house.
As an adult, fear drives my every step. I have so much more to fear – my children’s safety, my husband’s drive to work, my own failure, my mother’s health, bills, etc. It is with this knowledge of fear that I push through. I can’t afford fear to stop me. I can’t let fear win. Sure I have many reasons to just surrender, the miscarriages, the failed procedures, missed work opportunities, etc. but I will not surrender. Instead, I gather up all of those emotions and I push myself forward.
Fear and Conflict
Sure fear goes hand in hand with conflict. In fact, i triggers conflict, emotionally, physically, mentally. It happens, and it is up to us to just let it go. Would you rather be a doormat or a door? I choose the door and I love seeing what’s on the other side. If we were to resolve a conflict through fear, then nothing would get fixed. Let’s think about this for a second. Fear ignites our fight or flight reflects, and most people choose to fight. Running away can cause even more issues. So what does one do? The Fight reflex doesn’t necessarily mean physical fighting. In fact, you can use fear to fight through it. Use it to make yourself stronger, noticeable, resilient.
Fear and Perserverance
Fear can definitely be an overwhelming emotion. It can literally take over your entire being and thought process and many people just freeze. They look at the scenario before them and automatically you can see the defeat overtake them. It’s an unsightly event, it truly is. Many times I see my youngest trying to do the monkey bars, and after he broke his arm, he won’t even go near one. He just freezes and looks away. We finally got him to attempt them again, and he did it. We can’t let fear wear us out. It’s not the fear that is holding us back, it’s ourselves. We must decide to use that fear. Don’t be the grain of sand in your shoe.Cho
Choosing the road less traveled
I can still hear my mom say to me, “Stop giving up, stop starting something and then not finishing it. Fight through it, you’re smart, you can do this.” It has become a mantra for me and I can honestly say that whenever I feel that overwhelming feeling, I can hear my mother’s voice saying this over and over to me. The reality is that fear exists, it’s there and you have a choice to make. It’s okay to choose the road less traveled. Many do and succeed.