An Empty Mother’s Day
Mother’s Day is just two days away. I have nothing to show for it. Nothing physical anyways. It’ll pretty much be just like any other Mother’s Day in this house. I’ll either cook my mom her favorite meal, or take her out to brunch. Same thing we do every year. It gets old, it gets boring, it becomes redundant. So today I’m going to talk about an Infertile’s Mother’s Day Wish.
For the past four years, on Mother’s Day, I wanted to celebrate me. I wanted to celebrate my womb being filled with life, or sit at a restaurant table with my Mother, Husband, and brand new baby. I’ve been yearning for a perfect stranger to come up to me and wish me a “Happy Mother’s Day.” I’ve wanted to receive a bouquet of Mother’s Day Flowers or a card from my baby. How petty I must sound!
But I’m not the only one feeling this. There are so many of us feeling this way, especially because infertility doesn’t affect just women. It affects the couple as a whole. The husband or partner must be feeling at a loss, helpless. They’re probably at their wit’s end trying to find ways to make that day either memorable or uneventful. Why uneventful? Because the thought of having to take your partner out with all the other glowing or gloating Mother’s is heartbreaking. Because the last thing a partner wants to see, is the look of desperation on their loved ones face.
So like many other Mothers, this year we’re feeling like it’s an empty Mother’s Day, but is it?
We Should Still Celebrate
Why you ask? Simple, because we ARE mothers! We know what our baby will look like, we dreamed of them our whole life. Some of us have even had them growing inside of us for a short while. We mourned them and loved them. So, yes celebrate! Cry, laugh, scream, shout at the top of your lungs, TODAY IS MY DAY TOO!
I wrote a Poem. It’s probably not the best poem you will ever read, but it came from my heart while I cried. I wrote it for all us!